Superstar Parent!
July 19th, 2011
We stay in a world that worships ‘superstars’. Children search in their parents’ eyes, proof of them being superstars. They are sensitive. They believe what you TRULY feel for them.
Because of your words and gestures, what do YOU believe THEY feel about themselves? Are you consistent in your behaviour in making your own children believe in themselves? Or, does your behavior confuse them about themselves?
Are we consistent in loving and caring? Or do we go through bouts of love followed by a session or few, of shouting. Then a session when we accuse them as a major cause of our troubles where we pass harsh judgments very loudly that they are just not good enough for reasons like, they are just not scoring enough marks. Once in a way do we also beat them black and blue?
At the end of it all, do we wonder when we are buying costly gifts and toys for them, when we are loving them, when we are buying them stylish new clothes, when we are giving them so many comforts, when we are sending them to their friends’ birthday parties, they are still not performing up to our expectations (especially when the friend is doing sooo well).
The answer lies in the Question; with our behavior do they believe they are good? Or do we confuse them with our inconsistent behavior? If our behavior and gestures makes them believe ‘they are good’, they are going to perform! If no, then performance will be a struggle. Even if they do perform, they are not going to be emotionally developed children. They would have matured faster than their age. They would have lost their innocence faster than natural. They would have missed their childhood. And no child should miss childhood!
If they miss their childhood or if they have not grown holistically with us as parents in their life, then we have not done justice to them. We have our own personal child but we have not been complete parents.
In an interview, the famed bollywood actress and our own Miss Universe Sushmita Sen was asked why she chose to adopt a baby instead of producing her own baby? She replied, “I never wanted to have a baby. I always wanted to be a mother.”
Will having babies satisfy us or do we also carry the conviction of the spunky Sushmita Sen and say, “I too was never satisfied with just having a baby. I too want to be a Father/Mother. Not only as a status but also through my deeds, my thoughts and my feelings towards my child. Not only do I want my child to see a superstar in them, I want to see the superstar parent in me.”
With love, prayers and best wishes,
naren
As I Live..I Learn
Tags: Behaviour, children, communication, LSM, parenting, understanding
